Ryan has an IEP tomorrow. This one has been called because Ryan is eligible to enter kindergarten in the fall. Rourk and I have decided that Ryan will continue at the Meyer Center, but that still doesn't exempt him or us from having to jump through the many hoops associated with the process.
Anyway, I sat down this afternoon and read the report prepared by the school psychologist. I learned a long time ago to not let Ryan's cognitive, social and physical delays get to me, but admit it was hard to read "very deficient" and "at risk" scattered about the pages of this newest report. I kept my perspective and told myself that on any given day Ryan might respond differently-he might say more, he might say less, or he might choose to say nothing at all. That's just how Ryan rolls!
But I came to the conclusion that if a total stranger read the report they'd think Ryan was barely functional. The Ryan described there is not the child that I know and that's the frustrating part about these types of reports. They're a glimpse; they are a few pages of fancy vocabulary words used to sum up my child and that really pisses me off. Sorry, but that's the best word I could come up with to describe my feelings and believe me I tried to substitute others.
Okay, yes, I know that Ryan is delayed; he's significantly delayed, but I dare say that if 100 typically developing 5 year old children participated in the same evaluation process many if not most would show some degree of cognitive, social, emotional and even physical delay. I also know that Ryan has to be tested (I guess) but all I am saying is that it just seems like there should be a better way.
You want to know the funny part? I had to complete a behavioral evaluation on Ryan. While completing it I struggled with how to respond, because it was multiple choice and I didn't think the answers pertained to Ryan in many areas, but I did my best to be honest and picked the closest one for each question. As a result Ryan was found to be "at risk" for aggression. AGGRESSION! For the life of me I can't figure out what I marked on the assessment that would support this. I am definitely going to ask for clarification tomorrow and even for a re-assessment if necessary. That's ludicrous. If it had said Ryan was at risk of running out in traffic I would have thought that was dead on, but not aggression. Hmmm....I guess that time he pushed Lilly down because she took his drink is finally catching up with him. Big brother must be watching.